There's a First Time for Everything
I've never had anyone come out and tell me that they didn't want to be my friend because I was dating a girl. But Sunday, March 2nd I had my first confrontation with someone about my sexuality. Samuel sent me a message on myspace. This is the conversation...
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:03 PM
as much as i hate confrontation, i must inform u that having u as a friend on myspace makes me feel as though i accept homosexuality, which i am completely and totally against. i feel that u should change your disgusting ways but wanted to allow you the opportunity to curse me or whatever b4 i deleted you =[
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From: lauren♥{{but she calls me angel}}™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:12 PM
well.....i must say that message both shocks and totally upsets me. i understand your position and accept the fact that you don't agree with my choice. but i'm disapointed to think that that you would be willing to deny a friendship with me of any sort. it was nice of you to let me know before removing me from your friends but honestly, i thought you would be a bigger person than to let something like a differnce in views alter your opinion of someone. i hope you'll rethink this, but it IS up to you. thanks for letting me know. :(
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From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:19 PM
it's not a differenc in views, not my personal view, my personal belief. i have beliefs that up until now, thot you had as well. you speaking during testimony meetings led me to think so
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From: lauren♥{{but she calls me angel}}™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:34 PM
but it is a difference in views....i don't understand how you could let this be a deciding factor of whether or not you consider me your friend. and honestly, im not trying to attack you, or turn this around and accuse you of anything but if a diffence in personal belief stops a friendship then i would think we would have ended this a long time ago because i consider your morals to be not exactly up to "mormon par" considering what happened the last time you came over to my house. i consider that completly inappropriate but i do realize that we obviously have differing opinions and i was willing to accept that. but if you're not, then that's you're decision and it's something i guess i will have to live with.
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From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:41 PM
we all make mistakes, it's correcting those mistakes that solidify our beliefs
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From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:46 PM
well... i'm not going to sit here and beg you to change your mind but i am asking you to reconsider.... maybe if you talked with me about this before just making up your mind based on something you don't understand we wouldn't be in this situation
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From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:48 PM
there's nothing that anyone can say or do that would change my beliefs on the subject. i would be telling the same thing to one of my brothers
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From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:52 PM
you may not agree with it... but would you honestly turn them away? because that is basically what you are doing with me... you're acting as if you're ashamed to know me.
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From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:53 PM
i can honestly say that i would be ashamed of my very own brothers
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From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:57 PM
well.... exactly what kind of values do you have then samuel? because i don't want to share those. i don't want beliefs that would allow me to be more comfortable denying someone than loving because when it comes down to it.... you can't tell me that being ashamed of your brother would be more christlike.
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From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 9:01 PM
your rite on that, its not christlike. i guess it is my view and my opinion then. but jst as i said i don't accept it, and want no part of it in my life. it's my bed time now
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From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 9:02 PM
well goodnight.... i guess i'll see you around
...the next day I got a friend request from Samuel. He sent a message along with it saying "i was thinkin about last night at work all day. im sorry bout that".
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:03 PM
as much as i hate confrontation, i must inform u that having u as a friend on myspace makes me feel as though i accept homosexuality, which i am completely and totally against. i feel that u should change your disgusting ways but wanted to allow you the opportunity to curse me or whatever b4 i deleted you =[
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥{{but she calls me angel}}™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:12 PM
well.....i must say that message both shocks and totally upsets me. i understand your position and accept the fact that you don't agree with my choice. but i'm disapointed to think that that you would be willing to deny a friendship with me of any sort. it was nice of you to let me know before removing me from your friends but honestly, i thought you would be a bigger person than to let something like a differnce in views alter your opinion of someone. i hope you'll rethink this, but it IS up to you. thanks for letting me know. :(
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:19 PM
it's not a differenc in views, not my personal view, my personal belief. i have beliefs that up until now, thot you had as well. you speaking during testimony meetings led me to think so
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥{{but she calls me angel}}™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:34 PM
but it is a difference in views....i don't understand how you could let this be a deciding factor of whether or not you consider me your friend. and honestly, im not trying to attack you, or turn this around and accuse you of anything but if a diffence in personal belief stops a friendship then i would think we would have ended this a long time ago because i consider your morals to be not exactly up to "mormon par" considering what happened the last time you came over to my house. i consider that completly inappropriate but i do realize that we obviously have differing opinions and i was willing to accept that. but if you're not, then that's you're decision and it's something i guess i will have to live with.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:41 PM
we all make mistakes, it's correcting those mistakes that solidify our beliefs
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:46 PM
well... i'm not going to sit here and beg you to change your mind but i am asking you to reconsider.... maybe if you talked with me about this before just making up your mind based on something you don't understand we wouldn't be in this situation
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:48 PM
there's nothing that anyone can say or do that would change my beliefs on the subject. i would be telling the same thing to one of my brothers
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:52 PM
you may not agree with it... but would you honestly turn them away? because that is basically what you are doing with me... you're acting as if you're ashamed to know me.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:53 PM
i can honestly say that i would be ashamed of my very own brothers
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 8:57 PM
well.... exactly what kind of values do you have then samuel? because i don't want to share those. i don't want beliefs that would allow me to be more comfortable denying someone than loving because when it comes down to it.... you can't tell me that being ashamed of your brother would be more christlike.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Sam
Date: Mar 2, 2008 9:01 PM
your rite on that, its not christlike. i guess it is my view and my opinion then. but jst as i said i don't accept it, and want no part of it in my life. it's my bed time now
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: lauren♥but she calls me angel™
Date: Mar 2, 2008 9:02 PM
well goodnight.... i guess i'll see you around
...the next day I got a friend request from Samuel. He sent a message along with it saying "i was thinkin about last night at work all day. im sorry bout that".
posted by Lauren at 12:17 PM
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